Hajj Ritual

5. Looking at and Touching One's Spouse

#229: A man who is in the state of ihrām is not allowed to start foreplay with his wife. If he does so and it leads to an ejaculation, he is liable to the penalty of a camel. If he cannot afford this expiation, he is liable to the penalty of a sheep. He should refrain from looking at his wife with desire if this could lead to the emission of semen. This means that – as an advisable measure of precaution – he ought to refrain from looking, whether or not it results in an ejaculation.

If he looks at her with passion and he ejaculates, he is, as a precautionary measure, liable to the penalty of a camel. No expiation is incurred if he looks at her with passion but without having an ejaculation or if he looks at her without passion but it results in an ejaculation.

#230: If a pilgrim who is in the state of consecration impermissibly looks at a woman who is a stranger to him and this leads to an ejaculation, his expiation consists of a camel, if he can afford it. If he is only of average wealth, a cow is sufficient. If he is poor, the penalty is a sheep. If it does not result in an ejaculation, he is not liable to make expiation.

#231: A pilgrim who is in the state of ihrām is permitted to enjoy the company of his wife, such as in pleasant conversation with her. However, as a precautionary measure, it is recommended that he also refrain from this.